The Selfish, Unrequited & Self-Righteous

As spiritual beings, we only hope to experience the best potential within our personal path. In our surroundings, we witness those self-actualizing, those stuck with insecurity, and those stuck in between living conditions. Some of us grew up with in environments that taught us that we were worthy of reaching our highest potentials. You gained support, recognition and motivation for whatever you strived after. Others gained the same sort of encouragement, as long as they did what was preferred by their family. Others grew up in environments where the parental figures didn’t show much concern at all because they were always busy. Regardless of the environmental upbringing, your parents and early environment set the tone for how you end up being received for a very long time. Parental figures influence the way others perceive the significance of your goals. However much they support and attend to your interests directly influences the way your friends will react. Then your friends reactions influence the way that others take interest. That is until someone finally breaks the spell. But often times, it’s too late. These evil experiences begin to construct a personality that is difficult to undo. 

The Selfish 

If the spell is not broken, all hell can break lose. If the person who isn’t being received well doesn’t feel a sense of hopefulness, they will either give up on their true intentions, or forcefully act upon them without knowledge or a proper plan. This can lead to a very resentful individual partaking in anything that distracts them from what they wanted initially. Desires become extremely superficial in everyday life situations. Anyone that comes around them with aspirations outside of mundane life are immediately put down. When they get home, their favorite shows to watch are American Idol, America’s Next Top Model and America’s Got Talent. But not for personal entertainment, but instead to take an imaginary judgmental role. 

People are not born evil. They become evil from evil experiences. If someone’s egoistic needs were not met, the ego will naturally go under extreme changes. If the spell is not broken, they may forcefully act upon what they feel is their calling or higher purpose. They may indulge in hard drugs, to escape the reality of possibly not being received well. Any sort of criticism must not be about them. Not in “la la land.” So all criticism is instead projected upon everyone else. They feel like everyone else is a drug addict and irresponsible. Everyone else is in “la la land.” Everyone else is lost. They escape their own reality, and look for everything wrong with others to justify the truth of their shortcomings. Self-indulgent operations blur the lines of true potential and opportunity. Instead of taking the time to learn, improve and effectively embark on your passions, the avoidance method is taken. 

The Unrequited 

Those who tend to feel sorry for themselves and desire others to feel the same fall on the category of unrequited. No one cares about them and life isn’t fair. They may end up working a regular job and continuously allow others to take advantage of them, but never take responsibility for the unfairness being done at the appropriate. They don’t feel worthy enough because no one ever cared about what they wanted to do growing up. They play a victim role, similar to a selfish individual, except that they never break out of feeling unworthy. Self-indulgent behaviors lead to confusion, guilt and more feelings of unworthiness. Day by day is spent just going through the motion, settling in hidden resentment, which only holds them back from seeing new possibilities. These people live under the spell of missed opportunities. And they continue to miss opportunities because they feel like it’s too late or nothing good will come out of a new situation. The only time they may take on new opportunities is to impress another person, or when they are drunk or indulging in a bad habit. Then they feel silly the following day, because there’s usually a timing issue in their approach to situations. They feel a lack of fairness in their life, and so their self-expression and behavior is a projection of how they feel. They draw other vulnerable people towards them and control them for their own personal gain and agendas. 

The Self-Righteous

The truth is that everyone is evil in some sort of way. Self-righteousness is usually a more acceptable or moral form of evil, because the beliefs, principles and ideals are implemented into to structure for other people to understand. The lifestyle of the individual is deemed justifiable because of the association of confidence and will power. Self-righteous people may have grew up in environments where they felt overly restricted or their parental figures were very religious or free in some way. Self-righteous people tend to depend on their inner sense of knowing too much, to the the point that they can lack regard for others. Authority figures are usually not tolerated, and they prefer to receive guidance from random events and situations.They look for any signs or cues to validate or justify their actions. Their sense of righteousness allows them to believe that these signs are only from God, when most of the time it comes from lower desires and demonic like natures. No one likes rejection, but we find ways to work through it. Self-righteous people go through extreme measures to avoid any feelings of rejection. This is what allows them to completely filter out any sort of signs related to rejection, and then readjust their viewpoint to gravitate towards confirmation bias for themselves. Rejection and criticism lingers deep within their subconscious, projecting in avoidance, arrogance and manipulated optimism. Their intentions is gravitated towards what looks true or good enough vs. what’s actual, so they easy fool others who miss details. They love to be around younger people, alcoholics or others with insecure minds because they are easy to take advantage of and manipulate. Self-righteous people will only appear to be fair, but really only intend to get whatever they can out of you. You’ll notice that other people start to use them as a result of the indirect teachings of the self-righteous person. Then that self-righteous individuals holds resentment and continues living a life of being taken advantage of, while still taking advantage of others.